Make sure you recover after a stressful day the right way—and think twice about these coping mechanisms.
Are you making your stress worse?
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Whether you're male or female, red state or blue state, stress seems to be the one thing that unites us all. While there are proven ways to reduce mental, physical, and emotional stress, some do more harm than good. And what works for you might not work for your neighbor. "Coping with stress is like good fashion," says James Rodriguez, PhD, director of Trauma-Informed Services at the NYU McSilver Institute. "One size fits all doesn't always work." Everyone has their unique way of coping.
Unwinding with TV
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After a long, stressful day, being a couch potato with TV or video games is supposed to help you relax, right? Not for everyone. Studies have found that people who were exhausted after work were more likely to feel guilty—that the TV and games made them procrastinate instead of accomplishing more important tasks. Screen time can also make existing stress worse. A 2019 study in PlosOne found that high TV viewing levels may be linked with ineffective coping strategies or social isolation, both of which increase stress levels and even the risk of developing stress-related disorders.
Thinking it over
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Maybe you replay a meeting with your boss over and over in your mind, or make an endless pro and con list. These practices sound productive, but they may lead to a sabotaging habit that psychologists call ruminating—or compulsively thinking about something. Rumination isn't inherently bad, says Dr. Rodriguez. "The problem occurs when one stressful thought ("I can get sick") leads to another thought ("I can die"), or another ("Even if I don't get sick, I could lose my job"), and so on without a move towards problem-solving." It gets even more complicated when rumination turns into negative self-evaluations, such as, "things will never work out for me." All of these behaviors can prolong the effects of psychological stress, according to 2018 research published in Anxiety, Stress, and Coping. If you can’t easily escape your stress mentally or turn off the self-defeating thoughts in your head, distract yourself with physical exercise or upbeat music.
Ignoring it
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On the other end of the attention spectrum, completely ignoring whatever is stressing you out is not in your best interest either. Attempting to put it out of your mind won't make the stress go away. On the contrary, you'll only make the stress worse. Allow yourself to confront the problem, no matter how uncomfortable that may be, and develop a plan of action to find a solution. If it still seems like too big a task, enlist the help of someone you trust or a counselor.
Talking with friends
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When pals discuss their problems, they can experience negative consequences, especially if the conversation becomes gossipy, leads to competition, and involves third-parties, according to 2019 research published in Frontiers of Psychology. Instead, experts recommend talking about a problem once, then shifting your focus to possible solutions.
Going it alone
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While you want to avoid stressful relationships, isolating yourself can also have negative consequences, says Rodriguez. "We are social beings and staying connected to others is critical," he says. This, of course, is one of the major challenges of this time, due to social distancing. That's why reaching out to people who are most supportive and dear to you by phone, text, FaceTime, Zoom, email, or whatever technology works for you, can be reassuring.
Multitasking
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Trying to do too much at once can increase your stress levels and make your brain slow down, and—here's the key—most people are much better at doing one thing at time, according to a 2019 report in the medical journal Cerebrum. It's better and less stressful to focus and get the job done right.
Sleeping more
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Eating comfort food
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Digging into the mac-and-cheese or grabbing a jumbo Snickers isn’t a healthy way to combat stress, but many of us continue to do it, aiming for a quick mood boost or energy lift. But when you scarf down food and your stress hormones are raging, these chemicals can actually tamper with digestion. Unfortunately, the calories you eat then are more likely to be stored as fat than used for energy.
Drinking alcohol
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Hanging out on social media
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